grumpytrans:

if ur mom has harmed u in any way, including all types of abuse, and you don’t like/love ur mom, it’s ok to not feel as though you want to “celebrate” her; an abusive parent does not deserve your guilt or your kindness. if doing something for your mom will ensure your safety/is safer than not doing anything (like me for instance), just for a little peace of mind, please do it. it’s okay to lie for your safety as well. 

everything will be okay. we will get through this.