lgbtqiaaplus:

since some of yall dont seem to know

heres a friendly post from your neighbourhood intersex guy

• intersex oppression -> intersexism (yes theres a word for it)
• h*rmaphrodite is a slur/derrogatory lol stop fucking using it
• theres no i in lgbt… intersex people can be cishet, and it isnt a gender identity its a medical condition. go away. stop doing this.
• if youre dyadic, you shouldnt be arguing about intersex politics. period. intersex people are oppressed under intersexism and face systematic oppression (just this year intersex infant genital mutilation was illegalized in the US). even if youre gay, you still oppress even cishet intersex people under the axis of intersexism.
• seriously. read the above bullet again and get it through your skull.
• intersex followers feel free to add. dyadics can reblog and are encouraged to.

principles:

I just wanna say like, if you’re ace AND lgbt I know it can probably be disheartening seeing a lot of ace discourse atm. You are welcome at pride, but please understand that the people we are uncomfortable with taking over pride are straight and cis ace people.

Don’t confuse ‘ace people aren’t inherently lgbt’ as ‘ace people can’t be lgbt’. Of course you can. I know especially for younger ace lgbt people that this discourse can be frustrating and easy to misinterpret, please know it only comes from a place of community preservation.

Have a good pride if you are lgbt! And do your best to not react in a knee jerk way when you see posts criticising cishet ace folks, it comes from concern and a place of love for our community.

aspiringwarriorlibrarian:

ahsoka:

Happy pride month, the LGBT+ community owes everything we now have to trans women of color

Here’s a gofundme for Miss Major, one of the surviving leaders of the Stonewall Riots and a lifelong trans activist, so she can comfortably retire. 

maslna:

howgayofme:

tbh ace discourse is so distressing to me bc like. i highly doubt inclusionists even understand what the lgbt community is all about? 

like ive seen inclusionists legit ask what resources cishet aro/ace people and cis aroace people could ~~supposedly~~ steal and like. do you know why there are lgbt homeless shelters? like has it even crossed your mind why lgbt people cant go to standard shelters? its bc wed get kicked out in the best case scenario and get assaulted or murdered in the worst case. who is gonna kick someone out of an homeless shelter bc they dont feel sexual attraction?

the same goes for lgbt scholarships, hotlines and so on. we need these resources bc cishets either dont give a shit about us or they want us dead.

and the lgbt community and the ace community also have extremely different goals. i support the ace community. i think we should make people aware of informed consent, we should talk about the sexualization found in our society, about how sex and romance arent the only things that make us human and people can live a happy life without them. but the lgbt community isnt the place where to do it.

listen. for lgbt people sex is often a demonized aspect of their lifes. homophobic sexual jokes; ‘predatory gay man/lesbian/trans person’ stereotypes;  equating gay relationships with sexual intercourse;  sexual harassment suffered especially by wlw’ the slut shaming suffered by bi, pan and poly people; corrective rape; ‘love the sinner hate the sin’ mentality, are all things the lgbt community is supposed to be free of. now i hope you understand why, for someone struggling to see their sexual attraction as something good and normal, in the only safe haven they have, having somebody preach that ‘not feeling sexual attraction is ok!’, is downright disrespectful and hurtful, even tho its a valid statement.

the lgbt community and the ace community can be allied, but we cannot be united, and thats not hate speech, thats just me caring for my own.

OP: Makes this beautiful post about how the ace and LGBT community can work together, but not be joined in a well thought out and understanding manner.

Hellsite Ace Cryptids crawling out from a sewer gutter and into the notes of this post: “Bad post OP!! Cishet aces are LGBT!!!!!”

tenderlesbian:

i feel like we have to say this EVERY pride month which is sad but so many of you completely miss the point of pride

pride is not about being inclusive of every sexuality under the sun. its not about demanding lgbt people be loving and accepting of everyone. pride month represents the fight lgbt people have made and the long, long road we’ve come. it represents all the blood, sweat, and tears it took to be treated like human beings. it represents all the struggles we still face and hope to overcome.

so before you send hate to an lgbt person who said demisexuality wasn’t #valid or whatever the fuck yall are doing nowadays, and accuse them of not knowing what pride month is about, get off of tumblr and learn about lgbt history and the history behind pride month