I love how all the “signs” of people lying are symptoms of adhd or autism because when I listen to people listing off these so called signs Im just like…cool so none of these people will ever trust what I say apparently lmao. Lemme just break down the ones that I do:
1. “Avoiding Eye Contact”
Autism. I hate eye contact
2. “Weird Ticks or Fiddling With Body”
Autism. I’m textile and I like to touch things
3. “Putting Objects Between You and Themself”
Autism. I don’t like people getting too close because I have a bubble and I hate being touched, breathed on, etc
4. “Weird Facial Expressions/Not Emoting Enough”
Autism. Emoting is something that i have to consciously do and sometimes I get tired
5. “Adding Unnecessary Details/Talking Too Long”
Autism and Adhd. I can get obsessive with small details, slip up and miss my cue to let someone else talk, and get too excited about something that seems unimportant to others
6. “Sudden Pauses/Trouble Remembering Detail”
Adhd. I can be on a roll with what Im saying and in the next second forget absolutely everything. Then I have to mentally back track to the beginning of the conversation- sometimes going as far as reexamining my surroundings- just to catch my train of thought again
7. “Answering a Question With a Question”
Autism. I feel like this one applies to many people who aren’t even on the spectrum but sometimes I just want to make sure I understand the question dude
8. “They Tell a Story That Keeps Changing”
Adhd. Sometimes I tell things drastically differently because I’ve gotten sick of telling it the exact same way, but the important details will stay the same
someone: repeating things that reinforce a negative self view and world outlook such as the oh so popular tumblr niche of nihilistic ‘i want to die and everything is awful’ “jokes” me, in recovery, trying not to get dragged into that with them:
butch and femme are lesbian only terms bc they describe the forms of gender non-conformity against male standards! femme is the embracement of overt “femininity” but rejecting male standards via a femme’s attraction to women! butch is the embracement of gender non-conforming aspects in rejection to the “male gaze”! if you experience attraction to men, you cannot be butch or femme!
1. Become aware of how and when you tearing yourself down.
2. Now that you can catch yourself doing it. Offer counters to the negative self talk. A really useful thing I read was to talk to yourself almost the way you would child. Gentle and patient. Even when they fuck up.
3. Take time to celebrate your small accomplishments. You’ve been attacking yourself for every little mistake. Apply that same fervor to the positive things in your life. Did the dishes even though you didn’t want to? Fuck yeah! Got up and took shower? YES!!! You are taking positive steps to feeling better. Celebrate it.
4. Make lists of things you’re good at/ like about yourself. The first time I did this the only two things in my list we’re that I liked my hair and I had good friends. It was start.
5. Don’t beat yourself up if you screw up steps 1-4. It’s counter productive. When I catch myself calling my self stupid for some mistake or other my response now is,“We don’t talk to ourselves like that anymore. What’s something constructive that could actually help solve the problem.”
Most of the time that seems to work. Not always. But more and more Everytime.
hot take: hrt, gender therapy and trans surgeries should be free
if cis people don’t have to pay to have a body that doesn’t make them dysphoric, neither should trans people
So by that logic does that mean that I should get anti-depressants and all the other pills for my mental issues for free because the people who don’t suffer from them don’t have to pay to have them?
yes
And does that mean that corrective lenses should also be free, because people with good vision don’t need to pay to see clearly, and that devices to aid in mobility for people with limited mobility (from crutches to (practical) canes to wheelchairs to prosthetics) should also be free, because people who don’t have limited mobility don’t need to pay for them?
yes? why does everyone in the notes keep trying to come up with gotchas lmao everything to do with healthcare should be free
Then by that logic, healthy food and clean water should be free because without food and water we will die. Also, without water, hygiene will be minimal therefore increasing the chances of disease.
Yes. People should have access to a healthy happy life and the whole point of a society is to support eachother and work together. how brainwashed by capitalism are you to think food and water shouldn’t be free in an ideal world.
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