Author: all things grow

totalspiffage:

My therapist suggested replacing “is there anything I can do” with “what do you need” when comforting someone as the first kind of assumes you as part of the equation in helping someone which isn’t always helpful. It also kind of pressures the person suffering to kind of come up with something FOR you to do. Like I get so frustrated with that first question as a person who gets it a lot.

The second not only takes the pressure off but also might help the person really consider what their actual needs are like hey I haven’t eaten, maybe that’s a reason I feel crappy. It kinda takes the asker out of the immediate picture so the person struggling can focus on what they actually need, and then if you CAN help, you can offer it.

We’ll see if this works better!

heygoghs:

lattefoam:

Why Are White Girl Still Trying To Call Themselves Art Hoes this is so two years ago educate yourselves please

@ the white girls who are still confused about this: 

As the art hoe movement gained popularity, white people (myself included) turned it into a very classist aesthetic. Posts with thousands of notes tagged as #art hoe exclusively featured thin, white girls with expensive Kånken backpacks, Copic markers, Moleskine notebooks, and Birkenstocks. No one’s going to stop you from buying these things and loving art and this aesthetic, but the art hoe community was originally founded by POC for POC! 

Mars, the creator of the art hoe movement said, “It seemed really classist – that you had to have this certain level of wealth. Jam and I are broke. It hurt me, because I don’t have an income like that – I can’t go and buy an expensive DSLR.  People tried to use the ‘angry black person’ stereotype when I called them out on it; telling me it wasn’t a big deal. But it felt like a big deal. People of colour are often denied artistic ability, or the things we birth into the world are stolen by white counterparts. I never intended Art Hoe to be that way.” [x] [x] [x]

In an interview with Huffington Post the co-founder Jam was quoted saying, “Seeing a disabled trans black woman superimposing herself over a white man’s painting saying ‘I am here, I have worth, and my existence and art matters!’ is so wildly radical and revolutionary.” [x]

in conclusion: stop erasing platforms & safe spaces made for people of color